Closing the Door

In reality, the only way to end an alliance is to be honest, to express your reasons, and then to simply just walk away. No person wants to know that they emotionally rejected another human being causing heartache and morose. Nor do we, by nature, want to prolong a situation where we, ourselves, are starting to feel wretched and discouraged. Ending things takes courage when we are walking away from someone who is pulling us down, yet as an oxymoron, ending a bond can be cowardly if you do not say goodbye in a healthy way.

So how do we say goodbye to someone without causing another person miserable? The answer is simple. You cannot end a bond without causing pain. But you can lessen the blow to your partner by respecting their emotional well-being, presenting yourself in an honest fashion and by being clear in your communication. And then walk away!

Walking away from someone is abusive, has an addiction, or is holding you back from pursing your dreams take courage on your part. It is also a wake up call to your partner that you respect yourself enough to not keep placing yourself in doleful situations. By walking away, you are silently encouraging your partner to take steps towards working on their life. Sometimes a good bye is the best form of tough love, and in the end you may have opened a new door to a better relationship down the road with your partner. If it was meant to be it will be, but you must walk away first to find out. If you have clearly and kindly communicated your feelings, and have taken a healthy exit from the bond, you yourself will have less guilt and less chances of running back into an unhealthy situation.

For the person who is left behind, it is also a wise decision to walk away. Don’t call, don’t text, and especially do not send anything begging this person for a miracle to happen. You are only belittling yourself. As hurt as you are, and as painful as the situation seems, you also must walk away. Get yourself a support system and step outside of yourself to see the situation for what it is. That person may have just done you the biggest favour. Take the time to embrace yourself, and all that you are. Although you were the one left behind, walk away from them by taking this time to reflect. Remember, distance makes the heart grow fonder. It may be the best remedy to rekindle a love that was once dismal, or it may make you both stronger, wiser, healthier people and open a door to a new love. Sometimes closing the door on the past and walking away from the present is the only way to get to the future.