How do you spot a perfect guy? Often noted that one of
the mistakes that single women make is looking for a guy who is nothing but
perfect..
However, the opposite often happens as well. If you dated
around long enough, you know that just because a guy is “perfect” on the paper just because he is attractive, degree holders,
makes a good living, has manners, blab la bla,it doesn’t mean that he is the
one you want to be with. We often like to call a situation where we don’t
really want to be with a seeming perfect person a lack of chemistry.
The problem is that many women feel guilty about not wanting
Mr. Perfect once they meet him. First, they may try to force themselves to like
him, because he has everything they have been looking for in a guy and they
feel they should be liking him. Then, they start doubting their own emotions,
trying to figure out whether they might in fact be interested. Eventually, not
being able to feel what they want to feel for a guy they are with, they will
start conducting a census by asking all of her friends what they think of that
perfect guy. They will be looking to either be convinced by friends to be with
that guy or to have that lack of desire to be with him rationalized by pointing
out anything negative about that guy…………
If you find yourself in a situation like that – where you
started seeing Mr. Perfect but you really don’t miss him when he is not around,
and you feel that being in a relationship with him will be some kind of
business arrangement rather than a romantic adventure for you, you should not
settle. Some people might tell you that you will get used to it, and the
relationship will grow on you, but it likely won’t. If you don’t feel something
special that you know you should be feeling for the guy you are with today, a
month or a year from now things will not get better but will get worse. Instead
of feeling indifferent toward him like you probably do today, you will start
getting annoyed by his mere presence and you will want out. Or, you will meet
someone who you want to be with and you will have an affair. And if you don’t
have an affair because of your commitment to your mediocre relationship, you
will start resenting your partner for making you miss out on being much happier
than you would be with him.
In my opinion, there's no such thing as Mr. Perfect. He may be one in the first one year. In the long run, the Mr. Perfect may start to show some ugly side of his. Then the girl will start to think and re-think if he is really Mr. Perfect. Same goes to the men, I don't think there's a PERFECT girl. Everyone has their cons. That's what make the person unique.
ReplyDeleteI thought my wife was the PERFECT one but heck! Who am I to judge? I'm not perfect too yet she choose to say YES when I proposed to her. I have friends who wants certain requirements in their girls of choice. Big boobs lar, long legs lar. Deep in my heart that's bullshit. The real test comes when both of them are arguing and fighting at each other. That's when I asked the men, "Are you willing to be the first to apologize?". That's a real test of men's ego.
I have argued with my gf (now wife) countless of times. There are times, i take a step back and think of why both of us argued. I would do the first step to make up for the relationship. I know there are men out there who argues until the relationships can't be mend back. Ego in men can be devastating.
Back to Mr Perfect, there's no such thing as Mr. Perfect. I'm a man, i know there's none. If there's one, the man's just boosting within this group of men. Okay, to be fair, even if there's one, he's doing really putting effort to love his woman unconditionally. Cheers!