Run Away, My Love

What's likely going on is that we have a fear of losing ourself in the next phrase of life.And the more you like the person, the bigger your fear of engulfment you get.

We have been taught that we are responsible for another’s feeling, especially someone we love. We believe that if our partner is unhappy, it is our job to fix it, even if it means giving ourself up. I believe that taking of our love one with no intention to harm other is selfish,but that being a caring person means I am willing to put myself aside to do what other expect me to do, even it if is not what I want or need.

You have a deep fear of rejection, and you believe you have to give yourself up in order to avoid being rejected. You believe that no one will love you if you stay true to yourself. You are trying to control how the other person feels about you by giving yourself up to avoid rejection.

What all these fears come down to is a deep false belief that you have to give yourself up to be loved and to be seen as a caring person. Giving yourself up  giving up your freedom to be yourself and do what brings you joy is a terrifying prospect. As long as you have these false beliefs and they might be unconscious and you will likely find yourself running from love.

You will stop running from love when you are willing to let go of trying to control how the other person feels about you by giving yourself up and instead risk being fully yourself. You can do this ONLY when you stop rejecting yourself.