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Men are very often don’t know what they want, just because he has fun with you doesn’t mean he want you as a girlfriend. This is the main problem we Asian suffer. The wrong thinking. You could probably tell from their actions. But it is true. Most men can tell a story about how they weren’t looking for anything serious and then fell in love. While  every men looking for love but discovered they had a lot of fun being single.

Remembered I talk about the Cum Lover. More or less the similarity in here. They might not be hooking around but you both slept, he said he love you, you both had an amazing date. One of the most important and annoying concept that women need to gete about  men is that most thing have no meaning, beyond what is being covey in that moment. Just because he wants a serious relationship doesn’t mean he wants one with YOU. Just because he has fun with you doesn’t mean he wants you as his girlfriend. Just because he thinks you’re sexy doesn’t mean he wants to commit to only you. Each time you think this is the case, you’re setting yourself up for heartbreak.

OK lets just said I am serious about falling in love. I got attracted by multiples of guys. Which happen most of the time in me, none of whom feel like they will be my future husband. Which leave me a number of questions that everyone would like to consider:

Am I supposed to NEVER hook up with them? No kissing, no foreplay, no sex with anyone that I don’t think I want to marry? Do you think the standard should be: heavy petting is only in exclusive relationships, or not at all?

Sleeping around isn’t any crime….is a try out on their dick size.

If I DO hook up, but have no intention of committing to an individual man, does that make me a bad girl?

No No….you can either be friends or friends with benefit.

How should I notify a guy that I am not serious about her before we start a physical relationship? What’s better? A written warning? How’s that gonna go over?

Well girls, if you are no serious….just casual texting. Those idiotic creature will understand you are just friend and not into anything serious.

These are real considerations that go through the heads of real guys who want real relationships. But just because a man aspires to love doesn’t mean he’s above the lust and passion that comes from short-term flings.

Men look for sex and find love. Women look for love and find sex.

That’s right. We can’t. We’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t.You may feel that: “I just want a guy to be honest with me. Believe me, I sometimes want to have sex, too, but I just want to know where I stand. I don’t want to get hurt. He should be man enough to tell me the truth.”

Men look for sex and find love women look for love and find sexSorry. They have got a different truth.The truth is that they are attracted to you in this moment.The truth is that they are not sure if we want a relationship with you.The truth is that if they tell you that they don’t know what’s going to happen in the morning, nothing will ever happen.

So lets say nothing. And hope that you don’t get too attached.

Is Casual Sex Worth The Risk?

This generation, there are a lot of questions bouncing around with no answers. Why women cannot engage ongoing sex relationship without emotional phrase? But we women expect to have a relationship even though we had an understanding from the start. We own the land of emotions. That’s it. Is casual sex worth it?

There are a lot of single female and male sign up for dating website. When they signed up, it is the first move they know they will be meeting strangers and eventually……Though, when you meet someone outside of the circumstances, it can be more difficult to assess whether she is on the same casual page as you. Time will tell. But the question is, is it worth your time and effort other than the pleasure you get?

How do we possibly know if she is into some simple roll of the game called no strings attached?  Of course, there are certain rules that you must abide if you fling of the moment doesn’t get the wrong idea.

Always remain them in any of the conversation , you have no time for love. You don’t need to be in love. When both parties do not have time for relationship while busy for work, school or friend. It is much safer to keep your heart heartless and engage with other priorities. Most girls, in the game of no strings attached know the rule and the exit plan.

For example, you found the women you only want to sleep with, do not hint toward a relationship. Because falling in love with deep feeling is very painful. Do not treat her like something more than she is. Because she is only your sex partner. Of course do not leave her money once you are done with your game. You might not know what she is into. She might only want a night with you and that’s it. Always be a cum lover ,  no deep talk after sex.

Do not bring up anything that would lead her to believe that, one day you will marry her. A women pride themselves on being able to read between lines.You better be careful because men say things casually that they mistake as innocent, while women tend to be analytical ,so be wary and engage in after-sex talk at your own risk.

More things that must be avoided...

Never ever shower her with gift. Unless you're planning to buy a sex toy or some heated massage oil for your future game play, don't purchase any gifts that are personal.Women tend to take it very personal.She will assume that you want more than casual sex. You either chase her away or she will start clinging on you.

If you do, however, get involved in one of these casual partners, then beware of the possible repercussions and downfalls. After all, is it really worth letting Miss Right get away simply because you have a warm body ready to satisfy you when you beckon her?

Just remember, whatever you choose to do, protect yourself and watch out for number one.

So, He Eat Pussy?

Why Don’t Men Like to Go Down on Women?

Not all guys dislike going down. I met a few they love it. I don’t know why. But, when I bring up this topic to other. They seems to be very sceptical on doing down south. Why? I never questions on man on why he don’t go down, infact…I don’t need to ask.

Are you guys scare or something?

You guys are giving me the feeling as if you are scare of the pussy will eat you. Instead of you eating out the hell of the pussy. The pussy is not complicated as thou you need a menu to function it.

1 dick + 2 balls = 3 parts

1 Pussy = 1 part….How hard can it be?

Seriously, isn’t because the pussy has mons, clitoral,clitoris the urethra and bla bla bla…Are you guys shy to ask where does the tongue go? JUST FUCKING ASK!

That Awkward Moment When…

He doesnʼt try and she doesnʼt ask. He tries once and she isnʼt feeling 100% about herself that day and tells him no and he never tries again. Don’t give awkward licking. God Dammit. Awkward licks brings the whole mood down. Just trying licking and don’t stop  or stop with passion.

The Smell

Kindly investigate! A pussy in its natural element will not smell bad, if it does, means something is wrong. There are chemicals, hormones, yeast, infections and diet to consider. So, don’t assume our pussy smell bad.

So, why most guys don’t go down? What was your reason? 

Morning Sex, Please!

When sex is not your breakfast why not try it once in a while by starting the day with a bang that can go wild.

As I blogged before, I am not a morning person. I could never wake up on time. He once told me that he fingered me while I was asleep and eventually I moaned. Immediately he stopped, the only sound he could hear was my dinosaur snore.

Women, do you know guy’s testosterone (HORMONE) level peak in the early morning? Guys wake up and ready to give the best out of them. If you are looking for  longest lasting sex, pump all your energy on Morning game. I had scream multiple times on asking him to CUM..to STOP….he can go up to a nonstop hard bang for 50 minutes….NON STOP, HONEY.

I love surprises, he don’t need to shower me with gifts. All he needs to do is surprise me in the morning.

He started the process very slowly…just to make sure my brain is awake. Guys, remember…Never rush a women during morning sex. This will turn her off. She will be totally off the game. Sleeping is way more important to them.

Morning sex is Lazy sex to all women. You just have to let him turn you on…Ignore his’s bad breath. Have him to hop on top. Shove his dick up your mouth for a wet blowjob. Trust me, he will be happy to ride you while you sit back and relax on your pillow.

Its not that I hate waking up early, it is me that I CANNOT wake up. Average women would hit the gym or 15 minutes workout before they shower and head to work. But with the fantastic JAM in KL, who has the time to fit the workout on a busy day??? Your guy solved your problems. You can get those endorphins flowing with a partner for weird positions.

When I was told that after morning sex, my skin will glow throughout the day. I thought I was a myth.  It was actually true. After a morning sex, you will feel fresh up throughout the day. Your face, your eyes and your smile will be glowing all day. Remember, when your friend’s great on how great you look….Smile….They will know!

When your breakfast is served. Kiss him !

Why Fingering?

Let’s head back to the basic of everything. Do you enjoy fingering a girl or does girl enjoy being fingered? Based on my own experience, being fingered is fun but being fingered in a car is even more stimulating. Oh God!

Does guys enjoying fingering? Let’s put it in a way because the initial of endeavour of hooking up a girl that is what he needs. The fingering skill. Unlike putting your dick in, you might feel lost for the first time. However, you will get lost with your fingers maybe….

All dickhead knows that fingers don’t have the same sensitivity as a dick does. Yes, fingering a girl will not feel as nice as it does with a dick. The only thing that guys get while fingering a girl is the rise of their stimulation. We all know, fingering is a testing ground.

I think guys like fingering girls because they are putting their fingers in her pussy and ‘fucking’ the pussy with the fingers.  It’s probably a great thing to do.

Taaaaadddddaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa…….

Welcome to my section, ladies.

I do think the ladies like fingering because it is a chance for them to feel like you are being fucked without really getting a dick in and out. There are some girls prefer fingering than fucking because they are sceptical about the whole process or some even think that, it is safer. But there are a lot of girls who often said “ I am ready for your fingers but not your dick” . So, guys don’t feel turn down on this phrase. They might not exactly ready at that moment but however, the right moment..the right place..the right mood.

In the stimulation issue, the table are turned on the man. Because as we all know our pussy has way sensitivity than an ending fingers. So, when a man is fingering a girl, she get ample amount of stimulation…Yeah!  Orgasm Baby!.. It is pretty obvious that we girl love being fingered because it feels dam good about it.

What Women Want During Sex?

What do most women desire for during sex and as Asian we often too shy to ask? Let me tell you my sex menu on what desirably that I crave for during sex.

Trust me; foreplay is the way to heat things up. It doesn’t matter what kind of foreplay as long as it works for both on the bed. Sex is always better when he takes the time to make out and get me really arouse before the second act.

When you are fully turn on by the first act of the scene. I always wanted to be treated passionately and aggressively. I am not sure about others who think about rough sex. But that is my kind of tea. Throw me against a wall and grab me forcefully. Grab me hard is all I crave from you.

Since the day I lost my virginity. I often want my man to tell me I am special. Hell, none of them did. We women would want some compliment when we are on our birthday suit.  Can you Asian men be a little passionate to compliment us ladies?

Of course having sex at home is a boring thing but we women often feel secure.. But, I often said “ I wanna have sex here, there, this hotel, in a car and etc etc etc…. Change of sex environment is part of the thing we want actually. Humping on the same old bed makes the scene so dull and boring.  Take us somewhere …bang us hard.

As much as I am not a morning person, I do like Morning sex. It brightens up my day with a smile. Kissing us from neck all the way down south is the only breakfast to suit up the day. Do you know why? Morning hormones are typically more active than night. We women love messy hair’s guys…the morning voice and hell the hard rot.

I often asked for a slow down, don’t rock us fast. It will typically fast.We women, love to take our time to enjoy every intimate moments. But,women often worry men taking so long to cum. However, the sex marathon is something we always want. We do enjoy have 6 hours sex, but having break in between two to catch some air is definitely a must. While taking a break, foreplay is a fun thing to do.

To sum up what we women want during sex is just a never ending list. We want almost everything but the most important part is, who are we making love with? At the end of the day, we want to have memories to keep, an epic moment to laugh on for the next decade and most importantly we want to keep safe the best for you. Pamper us with love, Rock us hard with care.

Hammer me in the shower , NO!

I hate sex during shower due to various reasons and it does make sense when I put all of them together.

I considered myself a sexually adventurous girl or…wait WOMEN. There are plenty of unusual things I am willing to do on the bed, but sex during shower or making out in the toilet does not fall among them.

I have tried it more than once but seriously, the effort you put in will just kill your mood. It is totally not worth it at all.

Look, I do not have any bathtub at home. Stand and shower is deemed normal throughout my life. I love to blow bubbles during my shower, there is soap everywhere.  I tried getting so physical about it, it was so hard. Most of the time, I didn’t fall but I ended having terrible calf cramp.Standing on tip toe and getting fucked from behind inst actually enjoyable. 

Shower sex is dangerous sex. Stay sexy, not way too dangerous while being sexy to have sex.

Most of my friends do know that I have a criteria looking for the right one. He have to be minimum 178cm and above. Most of the time I got lucky I get Mr. 180cm and above. The problem now is the height difference is the biggest shit ever. It actually falls into the awkwardness of sex organ mis-matching will become painfully clear. When I stand straight up, I often reach their chest. You can imagine how hard to have standing sex.

When blow jobs become torturous, these guys will never ever going to find out how pain can it be. Kneeling on a hard pain floor for however long it takes…indeed painful. Not to mention that water running into my eyes and mouth making it impossible to see or breath. 

Guy is often known as the idiotic creature. During shower, they do not know the different between water and lubricant. Suddenly, he was about to insert and your pussy have taken on an ecosystem identical to the Desert. You will be screaming for life.

For those who enjoy Sex during shower. I am glad you make it to enjoy the orgasm but for me, this is totally off the sex menu.

The Blow in Car

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Why Blowjobs?

Just as men sometimes have difficulty understanding why women are such emotional creatures, and don’t know how to deal with our land of emotion, a lot of women have trouble understanding the reason behind men wants blow-jobs, and put a man’s interest in sex down to the fact that they are just an idiot, or that that’s all they care about, that that is all they want, and think they are self-serving creatures who want it just because it feels good.

It is also widely known that the male and female sex drive is hard to reconcile,agree with me? Women sometimes have a lot of trouble opening up to their men, and put it down to the fact that they  are just don’t feel like it’. Fair enough, women have crazy hormonal cycles, and find it hard to make time to focus on sex sometimes. We all know sex is extremely important to most men, but we don’t really know truly why this is the case, am I right?

If we can all have a bit more understanding and appreciation for the male sex, this will make it a much eaasier for all of us, and we will be able to experience more freedom in our intimate relationships, once we truly understand the differences between the sexes, respect and understand what fills them up rather than fear and reject a man’s need for sex.

According to most men, Why Blow Job?  It’s not JUST because it feels good. Although, this is definitely a part of why men love oral sex so much. At first instance, most women think that men love it because they don’t have to do anything themselves, and can just sit back wait for the woman to do all the work. Seriously, like I used to post on the first chapter, it is tiring to give blowjob. Without being crash, as this is not my intention, if it was because they don’t have to do anything themselves. Try asking a man to suck a banana for 10 minutes. God dammit!

Women often observe love in different ways than what men do ,obviously right?. A woman may think love in a man taking the time to listen to her, buy her gifts, take her out, commit to her, protect her, talk to her, put her first, hug her, caress her, call her, write her letters, making the first move, being the rock and the leader in the relationship, complimenting her, etc. HELL NO!

Whilst many of these things are important to men as they think, men also think great love in being given oral sex and having sex in general. They are not so much talkers like women are, and think that a woman loves him if she does have sex with him regularly. I am referring to those who are in relationship not one night stand. OK!

We have already established that men don’t talk as much as women do in order to connect with other human beings. But why do men perceive so much connection in sex? The reason is because men don’t generally communicate to other men the way women communicate with other women.It’s hard for a man to go to his guy friends to talk, to connect and to feel loved.Ewww………

This is one of the primary ways in which men can feel connected to, and loved by their woman. The reality is that the masculine energy is very much driven by sex. This doesn’t have to mean that men always just want to have sex, no, no! Sexual energy can be used in many other ways to benefit an intimate relationship.

It is much easier to have a healthy relationship when you understand this. As uncomfortable and difficult as it can be

Clueless Boys

Things about to happen at times. When things are getting heated, panties are flying here and there, neither of you know where this gonna be headed…..its just hormone shooting rocket high. When sex is on the menu, being wild is your thing. You hinted what you want, expecting him to pull the call.

When you finally recalled…hes a VIRGIN. FUCK THAT SHIT.

We often heard the situation where guy is more experience than the girl. But this time, the otherwise. But, there is always the little advice for sex-savvy girl who find themselves with clueless boy. Am I right?

To all the virgin boys out there, we girls are not any idiots, we will see through your bullshit, especially we be through this before. Sex is a skill that takes time and practice to fine tune. When a women’s intuition tells you that he don’t know, don’t freak out. There are many ways to handle such situation. Every bed story is different. There is no blanket answer that will cover all details.

So girls, you get the whole control of the situation and the game. Play it well. Do not know try to out smart virgin boy. They may be horny but not skilful …Guide them.

One night stand with a virgin boy does not help by satisfying your craving. Why? They are clueless; they might take hours to find the right hole. Foreplay might be their first thing. Getting yourself here is way harder than you expected.

Thus, long term relationship with virgin boy is way too much fun. After the first scene, give him a break. Get him some educational materials online. He might learn faster as they have real first experience. However, second scene would be an unexpected surprise for you girls….. 

You may expect the same old virgin boy with clueless and skill-less him. But, hell no….he has finally graduated from the master of body art. Because it going to be his second act, he is hungry for it. Therefore, you will have a fun night ride with him.

Enjoy the sex menu as they will be more coming your way from a fresh virgin partner.

Swing with a Whip

We Asian would not be ready to open up about our intimate life stories. But, most of us got the wrong concept about Rough Sex.  You never know how many guys are into Rough Sex, its like “it would be so great if he pull my hair right now”. It’s something you want, but you dare not request it from your partner. That will fall into a dull sex life.

Do not be afraid to tell your another half that you are into that. It’s more like to an understanding of your needs while making love. Tell him, you wanted to be tied up and spanked, no more, no less.
Tell him , "I want you to tie my wrists above my head and then fuck me," get out the tie and tell him when it's tight enough but not too tight and then get into the position you want him to fuck you in. Which brings me to...

Most of us don’t know where to start, might as well start with hair pulling, spanking or even wrist tying…. Get him to tie your wrist above your head….Ladies, remember to shave clean! Or tie something soft over your eyes and then go down on you. Or pull your hair back during doggy style. Or spank you as foreplay. All very hot options

Always make sure that your partner understands the term – OH HELL NO, when he gone too fucking far. We do know the pain, of course. Remember; do not try to do it if your partner does not understand your needs in rough sex. It can be way too dangerous if one gone into 100% Fantasy mode.

Girls, do be prepare to spank him right back. For those who have long nails, do not be afraid to scratch him like a wild cat.  These will bring up getting rougher in bed, obviously, you are not just expecting him to spank you little. You never know, the best thing you ever do your sex life. 

Remember this, I am just a kinky maid to him isn’t a kinky sex tutor. Everything I mention is based on my expectation from him. Don’t be too concern about doing things the right way because you find the flow as you go. I shall let your imagination go wild, however you are never going to get that crazy sex all over the place complete by having a little ass slapping unless you ask. Asian is always too shy to open up.

Treasure Trove of Kinky Fun

Oh Well, there is nothing more embarrassing than having my secret vibrators, porns or even condoms discovered, so ladies…..make sure you hide your toys well.

There is always the best place to hide. But, always think of somewhere that people will not be likely to look or easy excess. However, bedroom is a good choice…OF COURSE! Not many people will invite their guest to enter into their room for no reasons. Having my toys close by when thing get hot and heavy is the best place. 

Inside a Teddy Bear or Any Soft Toys

I came across this website selling a BEAR…like TED!  With the special name called “ hide the vibe”. It looks like a normal bear with a hidden pouch…Personally, I sleeps with all my soft toys. Eventually, I drooled all over. So, having the secret bear isn’t a good choice….

In a Drawer

Drawers …Yeah my kinda thing. I have this IKEA draw 3 tier drawers beside my bed. Trust me, I could store all my kinky materials in this drawer and keep them safe. There is no way that anyone would find out. But now, since I announce it publicly….TaDAAAA……..

Inside a Sock

Yes, I do have a bullet vibrator, erection rings and others small toys. You could probably hide them within a sock and place it with the rest of your socks and underwear. The chances that you are only person going through your own underwear unless otherwise….

In a Suitcase

I do have a friend who hide her toys in a suitcase, but always remember when you go for holidays, don’t forget to take them out or else there might have some embarrassment to go along while going through the x-ray machines. She had hell lotsa explaining to do before they allow boarding her.

So now you know where to hide and what to do when shits happen. Honestly, nobody knows I have quite numbers of kinky toys.

The First Mouth

Giving a blow job might not be all girls’ priority. But trust me, how many out there could give an ultimate blow job? After all, who doesn’t want to be the kind of girl who have memory can bring a wistful smile to any ex’s face……

Somedays, a blowjob is all about facial exercise for women and of course to warm him up for a great sex. That’s what I called FOREPLAY..!..... Every guy knows their body better than us,let  him lead you. And if you want to give him something really special when he is about to cum, rock him hard, pull him, drag him toward you and give him a fucking deep throat. THEY LOVE IT!

Do not assume the size.Just pull your lips over your teeth so you don’t scratch THE DiCK and keep it as wet as possible.

I remember being shocked at how it tasted…normal. Like your finger ( Fingers) * Depending on his's size * . I don’t know why but I always assumed a penis would be flavoured. Once I got passed that great shock, I realized that the word “job” is in the title of this activity for a reason. It’s a lot of work! Coordinating your hand with your mouth with your teeth with your other hand…TRUST ME…Indeed, its tiring!

I don’t know what I was expecting, but there was a lot more than my mouth was prepared to hold. I panicked, I didn’t know whether I should spit or swallow and then the most horrible thing ever happened… I coughed. And “it” went EVERYWHERE.

So if you are worried about your first time being perfect, just don’t worry and just Suck it. But that okay if you are normal. If you are not normal…I am sorry….No words to describe.

Right now for ASIAN! The biggest challenge….to Spit or Swallow?

Whether you swallow is a personal choice. But, at least you know the taste of the cum. honestly; there are only 2 tastes….either Bitter or Salty. But, someone actually told me it tastes like Candy! I am pretty sure she was fucking a diabetic guy!

So girls out there….Dont feel Awkward…go with the flow. 

The Classic Hand

Before blow jobs and having sex were within their grasp, it was the hand job that all young males so desperately seeked….. HAHAHAHA…

Every guy has a classic first hand job story. Whether it was in the toilet, classroom or god knows , tuition centre; every guy remembers their first rub and tug. Sure, they learned the mastery of the craft of ejaculation years prior, but to have someone else do it for them, that was just pure bliss.

And…

And even…Go…ermmm….Arhhhh…..FUCK!

Damn it, some porn stars! Just give them a hand job!! *imaginary*

While obviously, through my years of sexual encounters, I have guy friends who often complaint so much about their sex life, how badly their sex partner on the bad, oh poorly it’s time for me to ask you  the same questions.

“Bro, she gave you a handjob?– classic douchebag friend
Excuse me, We girls don’t have a fucking dick to practice the dam handjob on daily basis. So, don’t always seems to complaint we have poor handjob skill.


“Bro, wheres her G spot? - classic douchebag friend
Right, You can’t even find the right spot, how the fuck you expect us to give you the best handjob 


Ok, I do admit that I do appreciate the first time I gave a hand job. That moment where I so called “became a woman,” entering into a sexual territory never before explored. It’s a big learning process for everyone involved, which is why hand jobs have been a staple of our generation’s lifestyle, shaping who we all are today.


So,get yourself a nice hand job!

I chose the vibrator. Fantastic Fucking Feeling

It’s always me; I do not know how to beautify myself so, when you come across the budget of beauty vs sexuality. I will opt for my sexuality. To me, outer appearance and personal pleasure is one hell of the most epic battle amongst our brain. Of course………Pleasure will be the winner.

You might think I am mad, choosing a vibrator over my looks. Because I have learned that , look doesn’t mean everything to satisfy everyone nor my own needs. A vibrator is not only a sex toy. It’s a better investment than all my beauty products that sit in my room and do nothing. 


Orgasms reduce stress, Hell Yeah!

When you feel good, you will look sensationally better. Your skin glows with an ethereal light; your genuine smiles beautify the surface of your face.

I simply radiate calm, magnetic vibrations after pleasing ourselves with vibrations from my trusty vibrator.

I rest my case!

She can wear too much makeup, but she can never have too many orgasms..

The trouble with makeup is us girls can easily become dramatically about the whole ordeal. It’s addictive like a drug. We can’t help but reapply it throughout the course of the day. It’s never enough. I just don’t know why, maybe it’s a curse since those days.

I am not makeup shaming. I LOVE makeup but it’s just damn girls, we can over fucking do it sometimes.The beauty of choosing orgasms over makeup is that while they’re equally as addictive, you can’t overdo orgasms. In fact, orgasms thrive in abundance.

The more orgasms we have, the better we look, the healthier we are and the more we expel hot sexual energy into the universe.

Makeup covers you up, but orgasms release.

Makeup does a beautiful job of covering up all of our flaws. It’s true, just that I don’t know how it works.
Orgasms do the opposite of covering up,they provide us with a gorgeous release.When we reach climax, all of the stress and fears and worries of the cruel, cold, high-pressured world dissipate in one sweeping sensation of pleasure, babes.

We aren’t focused on our flaws; we’re focused on our feelings of sexual bliss.

Vibrators cultivate inner beauty.

Because we want to look hot and fuckable to the outside world.And there is nothing in the world wrong with that. But always remember: You don’t need to rely only on outside entities to make you feel good.

By choosing the vibrator over beauty products, like I am saying, “Fuck you. I can make myself cum, fuck you very much.”It’s empowering. We are declaring to the world at large that while it’s nice to feel sexual desire from another person, we can get it on our own too.

And ultimately, there is nothing sexier than a woman who knows how to pleasure herself.