Sex Proof Make-Up

I don't even wear that much makeup for the average woman. But even I know the humiliation of a post-coital vampiric lipstick streak down my chin or the sudden realization that my bronzing powder has completely ruined my host's cream-colored pillow case. Let me be clear: You in no way need to be wearing makeup to enjoy sex or look sexy, ever. There's no direct correlation between liquid eyeliner and sexual satisfaction..

SWEATPROOF EVERYTHING
If the label says "waterproof," "smudgeproof," or "sweat proof," you are going to want to invest. Sex is a rather sweaty endeavor, and you are going to want to have your look stay in place. Some suggested brands that won't wash off as you perspire.

GO MINIMAL
Some people suggest if you don't want your makeup to smear during sex, then simply just don't wear makeup. Wearing the bare essentials will keep you looking fresh even through the sweat and positions. Plus, literally no makeup will transfer onto the face of the person you are kissing.

LEAVE THE FALSIES AT HOME
If there's one type of beauty routine that absolutely wilts during sex, it's false eyelashes. I recalled the time these falsies fell off during sex and got swept up in my hair. Oozing hair adhesive is not a good look. Plus, those things are expensive. Save them.

PICK A LIPSTICK THAT WON'T FADE
Rookies might want to just skip the lipstick and lipliners, because they're going to come off with extreme makeouts. But some ladies should keep an arsenal of blow job-and-cunnilingus-proof lipstick. The brighter the color, the better the staying power. 

STOP CARING
When all is said and done, maybe you should also stop caring what your makeup looks like when you're fucking. After all, the makeup smears are also part of the fun and sex is about way more than what your face looks like. Stay flawless.

The Blow - Job

When it comes to giving blowjob, most women seem to fall into two camps: LOVE IT or HATE IT. When gossiping about sex, I feel this overwhelming pressure to declare that I go hog wild for head or loathe it so much that I have taken it off the sexual menu with the exception of special occasions, like birthdays. On the subject of blowjobs, there is a subtle urging to take sides. “Too much work!”  or “Yummy! Cock!”.

Blowjob is not something you should love or hate. There are so many factors which influence a blowjob, like who, when, how many times you have sucked it, where, what time of day, and whether or not you’re receiving oral sex at the same time or that make any kind of generalized statement about the act impossible. In the Buddhist sense, it’s neither good nor bad. A blowjob just is.

Over the years, I’ve enjoyed giving some blow jobs more than others.. All of this is irrelevant though because the thing I’ve realized about giving blowjob is that it’s not really about my pleasure. Unless you’re a woman who truly gets off on the feeling of a dick in her mouth, your feelings about blowjobs will depend mostly on your feelings about your partner. That doesn’t mean that you should ever suck dick if it makes you uncomfortable or if you haven’t consented to it. Of course not. But presuming you are game to please, you have to remember that you’re not giving head for your own pleasure.

So, maybe you don’t love having a penis in your mouth for more than 15 minutes, but you do love the look of happiness on your man’s face, the feeling you get from making him feel SO good. Maybe you want to repay him for the amazing fuck he gave you last night. Maybe you want to show him how sexy you think he is or how much you love him. Maybe having his most sensitive organ between your teeth makes you feel powerful. Depending on your mood and your feelings toward the person you’re blowing on any particular day, any of these things might be true.

The same holds true when your partner’s mouth is between your legs. That moment isn’t about how much they love (or hate) performing cunnulingus, it’s about how good it feels for you. We’re all adults here, so if and when his tongue or your jaw becomes too sore to soldier on — it’s also OK to be done, orgasm or not. This is the part I think women miss. We put too much pressure on ourselves to give a perfect, enthusiastic, energetic blowjob every time, which I think is the major reason some women say that they hate blowjobs. They’re just not giving themselves permission to be done, and move onto other sexual activities. There are so many to choose from!

Stop worrying about your own pleasure or performance for a minute or the next 20 sex scenes. 

The Perception of Sex in Our Society Today

Sex is supposed to be fun right?, not taboo or something to be ashamed of doing. Sex is a natural part of human existence. You shouldn’t feel like you’re doing something wrong or bad because you enjoy sex.

Why Do Men Like Curvy Women ( Not Boys)

Why do men like curvy women and are not impressed by skinny models that we see as perfect? It’s no secret that many men prefer a woman with a few extra pounds.

Curvy Girls Are Better In Bed

Do you know curvy or meaty girl give better deal for you. This society gives us the perspective that we feel insecure about our size matters especially we have no confident in bikini. But this couldn’t be further from the truth. We possess certain assets that not only make sex amazing for us but also for our partner. Hold it up, boys, there’s nothing better than a curvy girl in bed!


Two years ago, my ex colleague told me he would rather fuck me than a tiny stick. I looked at him and I was surprised because I am not any small size kind of typical Chinese girl. I have extra flesh here and there. Then he told me, girls like me got more cushion for the pushing and they don’t feel pain like banging bones. Certain sex positions are less abrasive on the male pelvis with a curvier woman. The impact of thrust is absorbed, which allows a man to stroke intensely with minimal risk of injury for either partner. Sex positions that bring the pelvis of both partners close together (doggie style, woman on top, bridging) feel better when used with women with more developed lower bodies. In short, curvier women are able to handle deeper, longer, more intense strokes, ie. "she can take it".


Trust me, boys do not find us fancy because they are into supermodel looking hot chics. However, men are instinctually attracted to us. I used to ignore this quoted. As I am now in my late 20s, I noticed men in their mid-30s keep coming to me. Men are visually stimulated by nature, and the sex appeal of woman is dependent on her ability to bear healthy children. A curvier woman with larger breasts, wider hips and a "juicy" booty triggers an instinctual attraction and desire to procreate. This fact alone arouses sexual energy and causes erections almost instantly. Maintaining a strong erection is what ensures a sexual experience is satisfying for both partners and curvier women have the best visual motivation.

I love my tummy, it take me years to accumulate my fats to make sure they look good. That is why, my ex used to called my body… The Theme Park. Curvier women have more surface area to explore and typically the best areas to explore are major erogenous zones. The butt, breasts, hips and thighs are areas that when touched with intention arouse sexual energy and can be used in several sexual practices. Breast sex is also an option with curvier women. It may not be a regular practice for many couples but breast sex can serve as a form of foreplay and a way to bring a new angle to fellatio. All of these variations of sexual practices help to extend the sexual experience when used as foreplay before intercourse. Safe to say curvy girls are a body of fun.

Trust me, we got more to grab onto…we aint skinny boney. It’s a fact; most men want to have some skin to fondle in the sack. They don’t want to feel like they are sleeping with their brother with a feminine body makes the experience even sexier for him!”

Curvy girls who are sex-positive and are confident about their bodies tend to be just as accepting of partners who are bigger, or have other body hang-ups of their own. This makes for an all-round fun sexual experience, because we are able to let go and just have fun!"

My Boobs Story - 36DD

What I don't understand is why women even want big boobs. Having them, at least in my experience, only attracts men with mother issues, awkward eyestarre, or no longer have any of their own teeth,the last three men who asked me out for reals. Women spend thousands of dollars to get boulders placed under their skin. Don't they know nothing will fit ever again?

That fashion is made for the waifs, not the buxom? Don't they know of the lower back pain that will follow? That people will constantly be silently judging the probability their seman are man made? Even I get that from time to time. Not to mention their artificial bubbies make it harder for guys to covet the real thing? I've met guys who were sleeved out that boobs can be two different sizes. That God given ones actually move, often loving to rest in armpits.

 Look, I'm all for plastic surgery if you want it. If I had the money gone would be my double chin that only appears in pictures. I just wish we never felt the need to change things to get people to accept us. Never happen, but still. A gal can dream.

So for all you flat chested ladies who think the grass is greener in Boobilicios, let me school you. You win. Never will you have to try on five shirts to find one that looks nice. Never will you look ridiculous running or getting hit in the face with dinosaur when you're forced to. And never will you give a teenager a soft core porn show as you adjust yourself in a library after a boobie prison break. Be happy with what little God gave you.

Boobs, melons, tits…whatever you name it.. There are a hundred names for breasts but only one for a brain. Go figure it out. I could spend an entire post on that horrid fact but try not to pontificate on political or social matters .This week, after my long live experience, it got me thinking about my relationship with my chest and decided to post on this. For those who are wondering, yes I am carrying 36DD for years and its pretty hard for me to find the right bra in Malaysia. This is the biggest problem living in Asia Country.

Asian Culture of Sex

Sex is everywhere.. it is harmonized in lyrics, illustrated in movie and featured in everywhere. . Regardless of your gender or relationship status, sex inevitably will cross your mind at one point or another. Yet, particularly among the Asian  community, it is rarely an open topic of discussion, and talking about it is a taboo. Speaking more openly about sex, and are bound by Asian cultural norms, which don’t promote sexual expression or behaviour.

Think back to the time when your parents gave you the “sex talk” did you even get one? I didn’t. Everything I learned about sex was through friends, INTERNET and the honest relationship I’ve built with my sex partner. This makes a lot of sense, since sex obviously is a very personal topic,and it’s not exactly easy to share the intimate details of your sex life with your friends, let alone, your parents. Moreover, talking about the risks that come with sex, like STIs and pregnancy, can be overwhelming. Women are uncomfortable talking about sexual and reproductive health with their mothers and even more so with their fathers and brothers.

One reason why Asian culture isn’t as open about sex as others is that it’s never been “normal” to talk about sex. It partly comes down to how you can almost bet that your parents disapprove of premarital sex. This belief is so widespread that it’s essentially become taboo to talk about any aspect of sex, not to mention sexual health, in fear that discussing it would encourage you to become sexually active.

Another part of this problem is that Asian lack access to sex and STD education services that fit their needs of sharing cultural norms. While sex might be openly discussed in an outside environment, like in school or through media, hard-line views at home may discourage Asian teens to take necessary measures for ensuring sexual health.

They can be more reluctant to discuss sexual concerns with a doctor and utilize other sex education (INTERNET) because it makes them look like they are sexually active, which their families would not likely approve. If their sexual identity is different from the heterosexual norm, being open with family members and getting the support they need can be even more difficult.

 “Your parents aren’t the only ones who can help educate you about safe sex and offer advice.” At least you’ll have shown them you’ve maturely thought things through, and there is always someone helpful out there to talk to. Yes, sex may be very personal and intimate. But in the end, talking about it will help us and our many relationships be healthier.

Porn Addiction

Do you know that porn addiction is serious issue? Of course, not many people would know about this because we are in a region where we hardly talk about SEX/PORN kinda issues to everyone.

When you are addicted to porn, you will starts to fantasize on all these crazy ideas about women, sex, marriage and children. This is a serious damage to the society. For those who become addicted have some kind of emotional opening to allow the addiction to take the place.

I believe in physiological way…there are few stages of addiction. This is totally based on my own research and my own perspective.

Let’s that with something I found called early exposure. Most guys who get addicted to porn start early. They see the stuff when they are very young, and it gets its foot in the door. The Addiction of the act.. You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You got hooked. You can't quit. Your imagination runs wild.

However, this will lead to another stage of damage in relationship. The Acting out sexually. At this point, many men make a dangerous jump and start acting out sexually. They move from the paper and plastic images of porn to the real world. If they are in a relationship, they will tend to asked their partner to act out of their imagination played by porn.

I believe, you don’t want to go naked and the next thing you know your partner had arrange a surprise of few others girls to join in as group sex. The best way to know what your partner wants sexually is to be open with him/her and talk about it. I do understand not many Asian are willing to do so. But, your partner will sink in.

When one adapts to porn, they do not know the real meaning of sex and making love. All they want in reality is making out the scene they fantasize by watching porn. You will never know how bad the damage could be. There are people might even want to have sex with animals or sorts. Because the adaption toward porns.

Pornography addiction is very serious.

Date A Man With A Beard

My mom would expect me to bring home a guy with clean shaved and goodie looking! Oh, I am so sorry to disappoint my mom by telling her “ the generation of attraction has changed “  I attracted to man with beard and tattoos!

Since young, my mom sort of brain washes me by telling me how handsome Takeshi Kaneshiro is. How charming he is…blabla bla…Of course I felt into the trap. I was young, he looks good, and I admire him. That’s all.

I am not sure if I hit the jackpot when I was 18. I met a guy, didn’t know he is so hairy. He has the height…20% that look of Takeshi Kaneshiro, but he doesn’t have the body! Damm.

A beard is right there on a guy’s face. It’s the first thing a person will notice, and the first thing a guy will be asked about. The man with a beard is a confident, desirable man. He will make a better boyfriend and, one day, a better father to your perfect offspring.

A man with a beard is just plain sexier than a man with a baby-bare face just look at this guy. A girl loves a guy who looks like a manly beast. Sometimes we just want to be manhandled, and a beard is a dead ringer for getting that kind of aggressive action.

A beard is a great contrast against a suit or a slick button up. Having a burly bit of facial hair adds a sense of the strapping woodcutter complemented by a stylish outfit. His beard also allows for a more acute confidence in your man, making him all that more appealing as your strapping arm candy. 

However,growing facial hair is attributed to puberty and the onset of manhood....... The ability to grow a beard shows how men are becoming wiser, more mature and ready to make lots of babies, which of course makes our lady hormones go bonkers.

 I know when I see a guy with an impressive beard, I always think to myself, “If that guy can grow a beard like that, I bet he is well-endowed.”

Closing the Door

In reality, the only way to end an alliance is to be honest, to express your reasons, and then to simply just walk away. No person wants to know that they emotionally rejected another human being causing heartache and morose. Nor do we, by nature, want to prolong a situation where we, ourselves, are starting to feel wretched and discouraged. Ending things takes courage when we are walking away from someone who is pulling us down, yet as an oxymoron, ending a bond can be cowardly if you do not say goodbye in a healthy way.

So how do we say goodbye to someone without causing another person miserable? The answer is simple. You cannot end a bond without causing pain. But you can lessen the blow to your partner by respecting their emotional well-being, presenting yourself in an honest fashion and by being clear in your communication. And then walk away!

Walking away from someone is abusive, has an addiction, or is holding you back from pursing your dreams take courage on your part. It is also a wake up call to your partner that you respect yourself enough to not keep placing yourself in doleful situations. By walking away, you are silently encouraging your partner to take steps towards working on their life. Sometimes a good bye is the best form of tough love, and in the end you may have opened a new door to a better relationship down the road with your partner. If it was meant to be it will be, but you must walk away first to find out. If you have clearly and kindly communicated your feelings, and have taken a healthy exit from the bond, you yourself will have less guilt and less chances of running back into an unhealthy situation.

For the person who is left behind, it is also a wise decision to walk away. Don’t call, don’t text, and especially do not send anything begging this person for a miracle to happen. You are only belittling yourself. As hurt as you are, and as painful as the situation seems, you also must walk away. Get yourself a support system and step outside of yourself to see the situation for what it is. That person may have just done you the biggest favour. Take the time to embrace yourself, and all that you are. Although you were the one left behind, walk away from them by taking this time to reflect. Remember, distance makes the heart grow fonder. It may be the best remedy to rekindle a love that was once dismal, or it may make you both stronger, wiser, healthier people and open a door to a new love. Sometimes closing the door on the past and walking away from the present is the only way to get to the future.

Love Me Broken

Someone  told me once that I have to get myself together before anyone will ever love me, When I live with a sickness called Bipolar, there is no such thing as simple as getting myself together… 

I can maintain, I can stay balanced, I can drugged myself and be lucid. But will I ever just get over it like some get over their trust issues…..I guess not in this lifetime.

A Bipolar me is intensely energetic, passionate to the point of it being too much, outgoing with no barriers, and filled with grand ideas for a future who is probably very manic. It just so happens that manic individuals come across as more charismatic and on point because their mind harbors no doubts on their behaviour and is moving in overdrive. 

Dating me with such sickness is like its own special brand of …nonsense. Generally, I want a fixer. People who love you in general want to fix what is broken, help you outgrow it but that person not possible here. They just want to love you as a whole person but at times I feel that is not possible with me. He has no choice but to love me broken.

I know I might be right for like 90% but the 10% is hell on earth. He must know how to pick me up when I fall not just holding my left arm and leave my right arm swinging. I am no any wounded animal waiting for rescue. I am strong, I am happy and my sickness isn’t going to stop me from me being great and loving you. I can be love …..

Its painful being a bipolar.The reality is,you fell in love with just one fragment of that person. If you haven’t spent enough time with the person then you probably haven’t experienced their “normal”-or how they would be if medicated and managed properly.

But,I often pushes people away.. Because it hurt less. But, would you hold me firm and catch me so that I can fall back to earth?

I may never be fully fixed but I am loveable.  

But you'll have to love me broken.

Meeting Dr.Puss

A gynae visit can be a shittiest life experience ever, especially for those who is going for the very first time. Of course my mom was being an ass, asked me to go alone to experience the young independent women life. Awkward feeling was the biggest hit.  


Why I visited a gynae?I was sort off ….curious back then. I knew I was perfectly fine. Friends were talking how much they don’t like the feeling of visiting a gynae. So I decided to experience it myself.  Shittiest thing ever! Regretted big time….then, the doctor will ask you to undress completely in a private area, and to put on a gown. I sort off, WHAT?????????? I just WAXED. The doctor will only expose the areas that she wanted to exam but still,…..


The SMEARRRRRRR
The Pap smear checks that the cells on your cervix are normal and can detect certain infections as well. The doctor will swab your cervix during your pelvic exam to gather cells, but if the sample is mixed with menstrual blood it will be difficult to get an accurate reading. Seriously, it freak the shit out of me when they decided to do Pap Smear on me… that gynae literally took out a HUGE METAL THINGY and SHOVE it UP MY HOLE.….. I almost had panic attack. But it was so bad afterall.

BOOBS SQUEEZING 
Checking for breast cancer/lumps aren’t the best process ever. They will just squeeze the shit out of my BOOBS.  It’s not the pleasure kind of Squeeze, it’s like you are squeezing your life out stress.  Given a choice I will not go through such process but it’s a yearly kinda of thing as women we should check it out for health purposes.

Quest on Questions
As part of the consultation the gynae did ask me some routine questions about myself, so get familiar with the workings of your body girls….. The questions may include: When did you have your last period? And I replied, Last few years was my LAST period… Don’t troll your gynae. It works for me but not everyone.

Time of the month
Don't go for the check-up and Pap smear while you are menstruating. I do have friends that are so practically God Knows what was their IQ level, they actually went for check-up during their period season. Euuu…. U girls are fucking disgusting.  

I been through female and male Gynae. Female tend to be a little gentle whereas, for male doctor… I had to scream my lungs out for PAIN that occurs. 

Renounce or Denounce for My Own Kind

Friends often called me WOMEN, this is to remind me…I am a Women!


I drink,drunk and I like it. I play video games, I love watching basketball match. They sometimes forget I am a girl,but deep down this is the real me. FUCK it as if I care? My bunch of guys is totally cool with it. How bout you?.........


You will be dating a girl who smokes cigarettes and wore no makeup and cursing is her favorite past time. I do hope you are clearly understood the term dating a girl not a guy, somehow you may discover she has complex feelings and likes to go shopping too.


At times, I might lose my cool factor because I am so emotional about things around me.I might be getting upset or overreacting when shit happens. I might laugh at stories about guys treating their girls like shit..but all this makes me denounce for my own kind, which to me…the problematic of two. Tsk Tsk Tsk.

I’m not saying all girls have to love and support all girls, but if we have women out there who are saying such generalizing “I hate girls!” statements, how can we expect guys to respect us? How can we expect guys to respect us when even we can’t respect us? You never hear guys say “I hate guys.” They’d never. OH…Women are so complicated! TRUST ME.

This negative and distorted image of femininity affects how both men and women view femininity.

If you want to date a girl who has guy’s personalities, just tell her she’s cool. Because all girls, even the most chill, hotdog-loving, beer-drinking, fart-making girls have a vagina and the second she becomes cool does not mean she renounces it. The two are not mutually exclusive.

Paranormal Romance

Paranormal romance is filled with tales of vampires falling in love with humans. There’s something about a creature of the night that makes our pulse quicken and our hearts pound. Steamy passion is what I am thrill by wondering about vampire. But, what about love? Can a monster that is not only dead but feeds on the living to survive love?

Call me crazy. I am waiting for my prince charming who might appear to be a 1000 years old Vampire Prince. That is one of the questions I kept asking, can they love?

Strangely, vampires are still monsters battling the Beast within. Try as they might, they will never know what love is. Intimacy is about getting up close and personal, sure, but vampires can be intimate with a mortal or each other without feeling love as a human might. Vampires in this setting experience the illusion of love and passionate moments help them do that. Unfortunately, that’s part of what makes being a vampire so tragic. They’re no longer human. Everything these Kindred experience is a shadow of what once was. Sex, which can and does still feel good to them, pales in comparison next to the Kiss. The only thing that truly gives a vampire pleasure here is hot, sweet, nourishing blood.

I myself always find vampires are sexy and hot. If you notice, most vampires’ lead actors are dam fucking hot for some appearance reasons. It’s not about how they look; it’s the sense of manly by portraying a Vampire…. Everyone could fantasize who they want, what they want. Have you ever fantasize on a Vampire? Trust me, it’s hot and steamy and at times you will wonder. Will this guy ever appear in my life?