A One-Time Sexual Experience and Nothing Further

The one night stand game can be emotionally tough for women. One could be cool, few experiences are more disappointing and frustration to any women when she was really interested in getting to know and was hoping to have much more than a fling. When you meet and attractive, interesting guy, going out with him and ended up sleeping with him to only never hear back from him again after that often feels that totally waste of time. I hear this kind of story over and over again, We went out, We seems have common interest. …..I hope this is not one night stand anymore as I really like him.

At times,  guys themselves don’t understand why they have one night stands. 

They might be blinded by lust to the degree where they honestly don’t know what they want until after they satisfy their sexual urges. Thus, a guy who thinks that he is interested in dating a certain woman, might change his mind immediately after having sex with her, realizing that he wants nothing else from her but what he just received – again – a one-night stand, but the one that he didn’t plan to have. It can be painful and unfair to women, but he doesn’t really have a control over that.

So, don’t be mislead by a guy’s affection, and don’t judge his intentions about you based on how much you think he is attracted to you at one given evening when you are out, especially if your date takes place before you had sex with him. This is especially true if the guy seems to be too nice, too sweet and too accommodating. If it’s too good to be true, it probably isn’t, and if he acts like a sleazy salesman, he might just be looking to score.

He don’t find you as the girlfriend material type of girl.

It is possible that he does like you, but it’s also possible that he doesn’t have anything better going on at this time, and you are just a “transitory” experience while is looking for someone who he really wants to be with. As cruel and as selfish as it sounds, it’s quite common for guys to look for sex and one night stands, and to do and say whatever it takes to find a sex partner and temporarily female companionship just for fun, while looking for a more serious partner, or while taking a break from anything serious altogether. One night stands are also a validation of the guy’s self-esteem by making them think – “If she slept with me that quickly, I must be that good and that attractive to women.” FUCK that Term!

Not all one night stands were made equal. Some can be exciting adventures which will leave great memories, while others will make you feel dirty and guilty. Knowing how to recognize when a one night stand is coming your way decide whether this is really what you want at that given time with that particular guy.

One Night Stand by Accident

Nothing ruins the fun of a no-strings-attached rendezvous quite like your friends reminding you of all of the ways you could have been killed by the stranger in front of whom you just got naked. Nothing except feelings, that is. Those can ruin One Night Stand’s too. But this generation better get used to them, because as the gap between puberty and marriage gets ever wider, we're increasingly turning to casual encounters as a way to express and satisfy our sexuality.

The therapeutic nature of an One Night Stand shouldn't be underestimated; sometimes you just need to get the sad shagged out of you. And you see, we gals can weave a complex web of sexual starvation for ourselves to flounder in.

Does being so desperate for human contact that I occasionally flop in to a stranger's bed make me sexually liberated? For sure. It's 2015. What's interesting though, is that whilst guys and girls may have equal access to casual sex, we don't seem to have a comparable likelihood of orgasm.

I've found men can be wounded by this, but don't feel like a failure. The orgasm is not necessarily the pinnacle of sexual enjoyment, there's the emotional fulfillment of feeling sexually accomplished (having a man's pleasure totally at your mercy is kind of empowering) and sexual desire is far more complex than one validatory factor can account for.

Science may simply blame my menstrual cycle for influencing my sexual motivation. During the ovulatory phase women report increased sexual desire and arousal, with a preference for short-term partners. What's more, biologists have recently suggested that females are drawn to the benefits of mating with many men as it increases the genetic diversity of their offspring.

So whatever your reasons for having a one night stand...There's a lot to think about.

Best Blow Job of His Life

Today, I am going to guide you through techniques to help you give your man the most enjoyable oral sex he has ever received. Perfect for keeping him happy and getting him to return the favour. Next time you go down on your guy, he'll be in for quite a surprise.

The art of FOREPLAY. I am constantly surprised to hear friends tell me that men don't enjoy foreplay as much as women do. This is simply untrue. Men may never actually tell you that they like foreplay, but your guy will have much more powerful and enjoyable orgasms if you engage in foreplay with him before actually giving him a blow job. The same is true for regular sex. 

Thankfully, foreplay is pretty easy. Your man will enjoy most of the same things that you enjoy during foreplay.Think about how you kiss him. Don't just give him a peck on the cheek, pay some attention to the rest of his body too. Not just his neck and cheeks, try kissing him all over his stomach and back as well. You'll even find that kissing his legs, right up to his groin can make for a really hot prelude before you get down to using my other blowjob techniques.

Sometimes it is not just In and Out…You will need to find that blow job techniques that I have just described will mostly help for the foreplay part. Now it's time to actually start giving him a proper blow job. One of the major mistakes that girls constantly make is using the same old boring oral sex techniques over and over on their man, instead of using a little variation. The main blow job technique that is used over and over again is called the "In And Out." This is when you simply take his penis in and out of your mouth with your lips wrapped around his shaft.

Guys, have you tried the Twirl and Swirl yet? Trust me…you will moan for the night.Like I blogged earlier, I am not good at hand job. : Some girls think that using their hands is not actually an oral sex technique and is cheating. This is pretty ludicrous as it's not cheating at all. In fact, your man will greatly appreciate it.The easiest way to use your hands when giving him a blow job is to just grab his shaft and slowly massage it up and down like you would when giving him regular hand job. When you combine this with using the "Twirl And Swirl" technique at the same time, you have a recipe for one happy guy. 


Honestly, nothing compare to Deep Throat. This is one of the techniques I love the most. Giving deep throat feels incredible to your man, but I'm not going to lie, it takes a bit of practice to get it right without it feeling horrible for you. The key is to consistently practice on something like a peeled banana or even a dildo until if feels relatively easy to do. Also, rather than telling your man that you're going to give him deep throat, a better way is to just surprise him with it. Trust me when I say that he'll be pleasantly surprised.

When you use all of these blow job techniques, your man is going to have an incredibly enjoyable orgasm. When your man eventually cums, he will experience many things that you experience too when you orgasm. One of these things is the fact that his penis will become incredibly sensitive to touch, just like your clitoris is when you are having a clitoral orgasm. So when your man starts to orgasm, make sure that you are not applying too much pressure to his penis. Instead, reduce the speed of whatever you are doing and make all movements with your tongue, mouth and hands much softer.
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Date Me For Sex

When you met someone for sex, you already know what to expect. I met a guy somewhere from nowhere.  We texting with each other.  His first text message was sexual and, being a flirty person, I responded back with some flirtatious manners.  By the time we met up there was no conversation, it was virtually straight to sex.

We continued meeting up and for the first 5 times I took it as just sex.  Not just sex, but really aggressive, dirty sex and rough sex.  A turning point came where he started showing another side of himself.  A sweet, caring side.  He even cooked me dinner.

I can tell he lusts for me, but given the way this started out I don’t know that there’s a chance any relationship could come out of this.  I’m not a clingy/needy type of girl and I give him space, but if there were any possibility of this becoming something more I’d like to pursue it.

Yes, a relationship can come from something that started with sex on the first date.There are some guys who will never date a girl that sleeps with them on the first date out of principle, but the surprising reality is that that’s only a small percentage of men who are that are that rigid. For the majority of guys, what really counts (and what they’ll reflect on) is the way in which the sex happened.  That’s the real issue.

I mean, if the sex happened after hours of amazing conversation and genuine connection, that will most likely have good potential for a relationship.  At least, it would at the very least not hurt you and might even help chances for a relationship.  It would be looked at from the perspective of “passion” and “love at first sight”.

So on the one hand, if you went in there and had sex with virtually no connection established other than some playful, sexy banter and verbal foreplay, that will work against you in terms of being evaluated as a relationship partner.

On the other hand, if you established a profound, deep, meaningful connection first before the sex, then there’s a possibility.

There’s still hope if you didn’t fall into the category of profound connection before the sex…  But guys aren’t going to date you for sex.  Sex and relationship feelings are WORLDS apart for guys in the beginning – they are completely separate during the beginning of a relationship and then merge later on down the line (at the love stage).

If you want a relationship, I would encourage you to find ways to connect on a deeper level.  Let him know you…  get to know him.  Understand him, give him space to open up.  You can’t force it, but if it’s a possibility, creating the space would be a good direction to go.

If you want him to be more open with you, demonstrate openness.  If you want him to connect with you on a deeper level, demonstrate coming from a deeper level.  Not every guy will go for this (he might not be in that place), but if he is, he might just begin walking down that path with you.

Now you mentioned that you have some pretty aggressive role-playing and sexual interplay.  In it of itself that’s not a problem, but if you’re trying to pursue a relationship with this guy and a cornerstone of your current “relationship” is role-playing it might make forming a genuine connection very difficult.  Role playing is about stepping into a role or character… and forming a genuine connection is the total opposite.

Find the One You Want or Fix the One You Have

Dear GirlFriends…I know some of you might be still searching for Mr.Right. Well, do you know searching for Mr.Right is like a game play? You need a strategy for it. Either you find the one you want…or fix the one you already got. So which one now?

You practically cannot live in denial stage if you want to find the right knight. You gotta leave your house….. Your knight isn’t going to come knocking your house door like a Cinderella story. You got to get into the game and put yourself out there. The more you meet, the more likely you will find yourself special. You have the chance to CHOOSE.

Alright, next! We are heading to rich enviroments…after you have done some soul searching to figure out what sort of guy u want. Think about where they hang out. Its much more depending on the knight you want….you can either hunt them down at bookstore, temple, basketball court or even garage.

When your ordinary hangouts has become extraordinary to meet those men. Explore your passion let things become your social life or a topic. Go to places you enjoy even if you are looking for the love of your life. You might meet someone who has the same passion or something in common with you. As long as you are really into what you are doing, hit off and give it a try. Passionate vibe makes you cooler.

Don’t always hangout with the same shit old gang. Do you know that I have various types of friends?I have my diamond turtle gangs where consist of filthy rich dudes who are either single or available. My second group of friends are my besties…they are professional in their line. I do have my passionate friends who are into the same hobby as I do. Lastly, I do have crappy friends who often fill my social life with alchohol. 

Different people bring out different aspect in our personalities.

Love Pain

When you start to like someone, you don’t actually fall in love with them instantly.

And infatuation, as much as it feels like an inescapable wall that blocks your view from everything else, will eventually fade.

Most of us who have a crush on someone end up falling more in love with each passing day, not because we’re so helplessly drawn towards than person, but because we voluntarily choose to let that person sink their hooks deeper into our heart.

Sometimes, it’s easy to be confused. A friend or a coworker could be charming and sweet, and before you know it, you may be having an emotional affair with them, or worse, falling head over heels in love with them even though every molecule in your body could be screaming out that you’re going down the wrong path.

And then you try to stop yourself, but each time you try, it only hurts you more.

And finally, you choose to give up fighting, and wallow in self pity and misery because you’re in love with someone who’s just so wrong for you, or someone who may never ever love you back the way you love them.

But the truth is, you’re still the one who’s in control of your own life and your own heart. You can choose to walk away from love instead of falling deep in it if you truly choose t

Run Away, My Love

What's likely going on is that we have a fear of losing ourself in the next phrase of life.And the more you like the person, the bigger your fear of engulfment you get.

We have been taught that we are responsible for another’s feeling, especially someone we love. We believe that if our partner is unhappy, it is our job to fix it, even if it means giving ourself up. I believe that taking of our love one with no intention to harm other is selfish,but that being a caring person means I am willing to put myself aside to do what other expect me to do, even it if is not what I want or need.

You have a deep fear of rejection, and you believe you have to give yourself up in order to avoid being rejected. You believe that no one will love you if you stay true to yourself. You are trying to control how the other person feels about you by giving yourself up to avoid rejection.

What all these fears come down to is a deep false belief that you have to give yourself up to be loved and to be seen as a caring person. Giving yourself up  giving up your freedom to be yourself and do what brings you joy is a terrifying prospect. As long as you have these false beliefs and they might be unconscious and you will likely find yourself running from love.

You will stop running from love when you are willing to let go of trying to control how the other person feels about you by giving yourself up and instead risk being fully yourself. You can do this ONLY when you stop rejecting yourself.

Dating Insurance

Most men expose their real feelings after sex. It’s a beautiful thing. Its beautiful to look at them in their eyes deeply to hear them confess how they feel about u. But have you ever been with……hmmmmmmm

Sex are epic, believe it or not. However, a man will review his true feelings after he cums. Sex talk is sex take. You will need to differentiate whats real and whats not. But most women will interpret that sex talk as a man’s true feeling…..hmmm…

When a guy is having sex, there is a rush of emotions. I don’t know why, but I can sense it. When he sees a beautiful women underneath of him, he get lost in his sensation. It doesn’t mean these feeling are feeling that will last. 

Have you ever noticed after a man cums he goes quiet? He lies down. He's less into kissing. He's less into touching. He's kind of aloof. During sex he becomes what I call a 'sex professor'. He puke out his’s feelings all over you.

If you feel a man break away from you after sex, even after he's been telling you all those beautiful things, then you've been with a "Cum Lover."That is absolutely correct. He's your lover when he's about to cum, but when he's not charged up sexually, he doesn't have those same feelings. I want to make you aware of this type of man, because a lot of women get sucked into it with him, and there are a lot of them around.


Dear ladies, make sure he has feelings for you after sex before you commit your heart.

Selfish Affairs

Our perception of love and our language of love encourage us to think of love as a quantifiable substance ["make love", "fallen in love", "lots of love"], something that can be given, received, and taken away.  Love, like everything else in a commercial society, has been turned into a commodity, an object of pleasure or happiness.

Movies and songs tell us that love hurts.  But when love hurts, it's not love any more, but an immense desire we create that manifests itself in a variety of ways on our desire to get rid of the fear of loneliness or rejection, our desire to indulge in needy attachment, our desire to satisfy our possessive need for control…..and so, I can say….I do miss you real much now.

I was taught that liking something, or loving something, were only different degrees of the same thing.  "I love that car", "I love this rims", "I love this beer".  What was really meant is that: "I really really like these 3 above me".

Liking is a very superficial emotion.  I used to like boy bands but in a few years I had outgrow it.  Love, however, is the opposite.  While liking is temporary and is an external superficial emotion, love is boundless and deep.  Love is what allows you to see another person's soul and admire their essence… thou at time, it can be painful and yet you enjoy the pain.

Growing up thinking that loving something we wants it very badly creates a lot of the typical problems we see all the time in all sort of relationships.  Jealousy for example isn't a symptom of love, it is a symptom of desire.  Pure love is different from this , it known that there is no need to own something or someone beautiful by making it yours, instead, you simply celebrate their existence. Indeed, pure love created pure tears….do you agree?

Love is all-selfless.  But why do we turn it into desire?  Why do we objectify it in order to gain something out of it?  Before being capable of appreciating love's selflessness, we must first cultivate selfishness.